30 and not married? What’s wrong?

Nothing, really.

But I wish people would take my word for it.

I am not unmarried at 30 because I had a heartbreak and don’t want to go through one again.

I’m not unmarried at 30 because I am hiding my sexual orientation or because I’m ashamed of it.

I’m not unmarried at 30 because I tried really hard to find a partner and failed.

I’m not unmarried at 30 because I’m hyper-independent or too casual in life to take my responsibilities seriously.

None of this!

I’m unmarried at 30 because I have the freedom and privilege to make that choice. (thanks to my parents, the community I was born into and the people around me! I mean it when I say it is a huge privilege for women)

I’m unmarried at 30 because I am okay if someone comes along someday who I can walk this journey with me or even not. Either works!

I’m unmarried at 30 because I might have philosophies about marriage that are different than yours. Not mine better than yours. Or yours better than mine. Just two different philosophies — that’s all.

I’m unmarried at 30 because despite the fear that society throws at me for being unmarried at this age, I’ve faith in the ways of life and I’m sure life will give me what I deserve. It always has.

I’m unmarried at 30 because I have learnt along the way that the decisions made in fear have not served me well.

I’m unmarried at 30 because I am also largely a solo person. I greatly cherish the time I spend with myself. If I were to be with someone, I would want the person to be able to respect this.

I’m unmarried at 30 and maybe my decision will go horribly wrong (like a lot of you tell me). Even then, I know, I would be happy that I had the courage and opportunity to lead life the way I desired.

Everything said, I’m not promoting ‘being single or unmarried’. But I’m promoting CHOICE.

The choice to make that decision to marry or not…when and how…to whom and why.

THE CHOICE — that really matters.